Overhearing my six year old son being a great big brother to his
little sisters is one of my favorite things to hear as a mom, and it's
even better as a homeschooling mom if he is teaching them something.
I was listening in the other day as he was “Giving a camera
lessson” to his four year old sister. This is the beauty of the
Montessori method, that children are taught in mixed age groups. The
younger children watch and learn from the older children and the
older children gain confidence and cement their skills while teaching
the younger children. This becomes second nature to the Montessori
child and is part of what Dr. Montessori described as “The joy of
learning.”
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Learning how to prune a plant just above the nodes. |
Home schoolers use many different ways to teach their children of
varying ages but teaching them together is not only easier than
teaching each child separately, it is also a lot of fun. Raising
tadpoles and illustrating life cycle journals is surely more fun
than sitting apart doing workbooks.
This
practice can seem daunting though, especially when teaching young
children. It can seem like a lot of work, mamas,
a whole
lot of work. It's the reason, actually, that most people
think that they could never home school their children! "How
does that even
work??" they wonder. With Montessori
education being so hands on, how can children of different ages and
just one teacher between them work? The key to being successful at
home schooling your different aged children in the Montessori way is
the same secret Montessori teachers use in their classrooms:
classroom culture. Even if you are teaching just two children,
establishing a classroom culture is not only necessary, it is vitally
important to making your job easier.
Yes, easier!
So let's talk about
9 ways to establish classroom culture:
1. Introduce the classroom at the beginning of the school year
with Grace
and Courtesy Lessons and modeling. Don't assume that the
children will know that they are not to walk on each others work
rugs. Don't assume anything. Take some time and decide what kind of
behaviors are important to your smoothly running classroom. Present
lessons to everyone. Be patient, review lessons as needed and give it
time. And most of all-
be the role model and be aware
of your words. Model enthusiasm and it will spread. You may count on
the older children to model the kind of behavior you want the younger
children to follow but don't point it out by saying, "see how
HE
is walking? That is how
you should walk." Instead, say to
the walking child, "You are walking so quietly." The others
will hear it and take note.
2.
Have a daily circle time. We
love Circle Time. Start with a good morning song that
incorporates the name of each child and be sure to touch and make eye
contact with the child whose name is being sung.
Here
is an example. The aim here is to start circle time with each child
feeling welcomed and loved, gain a feeling of connection with each
other and with you, and finish with determination and readiness to
exert herself. Sing songs to learn things, like your address, the
months of the year and days of the week, the alphabet song for the
toddler. We sing fun songs like
Skinnamarinky
Dinky Dink. We follow silliness with a
loving/kindness
exercise: May I be healthy, may I be safe, may I be happy, may I
live in peace. Finally to set the mood for learning we stack our
hands in huddle fashion and chant:
I like hard work!
It may be brainwashing but we aren't above brainwashing and research
now shows the importance of valuing effort. If they say it
enough times they will believe it and this also
makes my job
easier. Muahahahahaha.
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Circle Time |
3. Put routines into your homeschooling day. I won't harp on this point because as mothers we are pretty
much the masters of routines, right? But be
stringent
about your classroom routines.
For
us, we take a few minutes to water plants and feed or observe
classroom critters, have our circle time, then get to work. Before we
leave the classroom, we clean up and make sure everything is in
order. It's not complicated, but it is consistent. Routines give
children an idea of what is expected of them without fighting while giving them the
feeling that what they do is very important. I have actually heard my
child say, "The nice thing about our classroom is that we put
everything away when we are done with it." He
likes it,
there is no fight. Boy I wish he could follow this routine in his
bedroom!
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Keeping routines keeps chaos in check. |
4. Try to give equal time and attention to each child.
Older children often get most of our attention because we are most
anxious about keeping them at or above grade level, right? Successive
children benefit from our confidence but also suffer when we don't
value their milestones.
Every child at every age has
important work to do. Present all activities with as much attention
and focus and excitement as you give the older child. Sit next to
her, speak in a peaceful relaxed tone and make eye contact. Smile.
Channel your first grade teacher. You remember her, don't you?
Feeling your love and attention will help your children to feel and
act peaceful and they will be more willing to allow you to work with
their siblings when you need to. “You are doing great work. I need
to help your brother and I will be back to check in on you.”
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Toddlers will learn that they too have work they need to do. |
5. Make sure that each child has new, engaging work regularly
and keep several of these activities available to each child.
Children
love new activities.
(This will make your
job easier! Bored children are trouble makers) This of course is
going to require most of your time and effort, constantly observing
and putting together new activities, but this is where you shine,
mamas! Set aside some time each week to review what lessons have been
introduced, which they are independently working on and what needs to
be presented next for each child. Having a plan and being organized
will help in those moments when a bored child starts acting up. If
you have a new lesson, a warm smile and a few minutes of attention to
give her, she will be right back on track. Presenting just the right
activity at the right time and then seeing your child engage with it
for 30 minutes every day is gratifying. Following a curriculum like
NAMC or
New Child
Montessori will help give
you an idea of what activities should be presented when.
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Sorting for a toddler. |
6. Keep activities clean and simple. I love
all the themed, Montessori-inspired sensorial and practical life
activities all over the Internet, but the reality is that all
activities should be as clear and non-distracting as possible. Never
doubt that learning in itself is fun, it does not need to be wild or
themed. Before putting together an activity consider the objective.
Children don't appreciate busy work. Check some reputable Montessori
material retailers to get ideas, like
Montessori
Services. Lots of activities can still be made, but well
designed, simple activities will get more use, last longer and......
be easier for you.
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The materials themselves draw the attention of the child. |
7. If really little ones are part of the picture, let them
participate. Set up a visual mat for baby with mobiles and a
mirror and carefully selected toys. Babies have work to do too. Sing
appealing songs for them at circle time, sing their full names to
them, sing clapping rhythm songs, and have fun
with them.
Mary
Had a Little Lamb,
I'm a Little Teapot, Old MacDonald are all toddler
favorites. The older children will love this and it helps them to
bond with their younger sibling. When nap time approaches, encourage
the older children to choose work you know will keep them busy for
awhile, long enough for you to put baby down then rejoin them. Nap
routines change sometimes of course, so 'Follow the Child'. If you
can sneak away to get baby down though, getting some time in the
classroom with baby then without baby while she sleeps can work out
really well.
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A mirror, a mobile and some carefully selected toys. |
8. Teach them together. Of course math and language
activities will have to be designed specifically for each child, but
history and science activities should be presented to everyone. Group
work is one thing that can be lacking in a home school classroom, but
if the children each pitch in and do what they are capable of,
learning together as a team is valuable. Younger children will admire
the abilities of the older ones and the older ones will feel a real
sense of accomplishment for how much he has learned since he was his
sister's age. Extensions of the activities can be assigned
individually at each child's level. For example- while using the
notorious nomenclature cards, have the younger one match the pictures
and the older child match the labels. Give the three period lesson to
both children, being mindful of their abilities, then assign
extensions. Children also enjoy being read to, so make a daily
routine of reading to everyone, read something on the subject
everyone is studying at the moment. Sure some things might not be
fully understood by everyone, but hearing big words in context is
great for language development, so just have them listen. Having
the older child read a simple book to the younger children is
wonderful too.
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One child uses just the name to find the triangle, the other may use the pictures. |
9.
Lastly, more routine! Have a set time to home school,
set time for wake up, set bedtime, mealtimes and outside playtimes.
Keeping a regimented day in general is really good for kids and for
you. It helps you get the most accomplished, and it is easier to get
children to comply when they know what to expect
. I
know you've heard this like 1,000 times, but it really makes things
easier
(which of course will leave you more time for fun
practical life activities, gardening or playing music)
Homeschooling in the way of Montessori can be made easy if the
classroom culture is one that has the tone of being engaging,
welcoming, interesting and fun. Enjoy it and your joy will spread to
the whole class. So what do you think? Sounds easy enough, right?
Pile up the good stuff and Let It Rot
,
your classroom will grow and take on a life of its own.